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Hi Aisling, I came to see you when I was beginning a cycle of IVF. I'm just dropping you a line to let you know I'm now almost 15 weeks pregnant. Things are going really well. I'm still a little anxious, but each week I get more confident and relaxed. I want to thank you for the work you did with me. I find I use the techniques frequently. I have praised and recommended you to many people since. Thanks again, regards,
Hi Ray, I wanted to thank you for your great help in my flying fears when I went to London at Easter. I was absolutely fine; especially going when I was actually surprised when we were coming into land it was so quick! Coming back was equally good, helped by no delays and smooth flights. I am going over again for a weekend later in June and I feel fine about it. Thank you so much for taking the time to help me, and I'm confident now that it will continue.
Hi Ray, I wanted to update you on my weight loss success! of 3 stone. The gastric hypnotherapy band exercise that we did worked brilliantly; I find myself automatically eating less, smiling more, been upbeat and happy about my future. Oddly enough I have had no cravings at all, and continue to lose weight since we did the emotional work and addressed my beliefs.
Aisling, I just want to thank you for yesterday - you were very patient with me! I feel great today and did a great presentation. I definitely have a better feeling about presenting at meetings and handling things in the future! I'm really grateful for what you've done.
I am delighted to tell you that I am completely cured of Vaginismus! We have a healthy sex life now that I never dreamed I could ever have. I never imagined I would ever feel this way. I am truly happy and fulfilled and I just wanted to thank you for all your help. I could not have climbed that mountain without you. I hope you continue to help others.
Many Thanks Ray for all your support in helping me lose weight. I really needed ongoing support which has made all the difference in me losing and keeping the weight off. I know this is a year later, but I thought you’d like to know that I have still kept the weight off and I am very proud of myself and for you encouraging me along the way. I loved the Hypnosis you did with me as it made losing weight so much easier then I would have thought!
Ray, I wanted to give you feedback after our session. I have to say that the 2 days after the session I was absolutely floating. I had the best sleeps I've had in years. Since then I am happier than I was and generally sleeping allot better. I find I am not as angry and my relationships are better. My boyfriend passed a comment on how much more relaxed I was and we are getting on better too...
Aisling has helped me with a lot of different issues that I have had over the last year and I must say that I am astonished at what she has accomplished with me. I was really doubtful that I could get rid of some of my problems, but now I actually have and that is amazing. I highly recommend Aisling’s services to anyone who wants to make a change within themselves, because it has helped me tremendously.
Hi Aisling, Well I'm the proud mother of a beautiful baby boy Aidan!! I just wanted to say a massive thank you for ensuring that I was mentally prepared. My consultant couldn't believe it and asked how I mentally prepared myself, mid wife asked for a copy of my birthing plan to keep. I told everyone that asked in the hospital about you and hypnobirthing. Doc said he couldn't believe it for first baby and that my threshold for pain was remarkable!! So Aisling massive thank you.
Ray, thank you so much! Thanks again for last week. My mind is free of all that clutter and it seems to have had some positive effect, which is a really good thing for me. I'm recommending a friend to you, hope you don't mind!
A life without stress, it's the Lotto jackpot-winning dream, isn't it? We want banking to be stress-free and spa breaks to de-stress, and we even use stress-busting scents. In the quest for happiness, stress is to be avoided at all costs. Stress is the enemy, right?
Perhaps not. According to a ground-breaking new book, every negative thought you've had about sweaty, heart-racing, stressful scenarios is wrong and, instead of cowering under the duvet hiding away from stress, we should be embracing success as our friend.
It's a fascinating revelation that's the subject of health psychologist Dr Kelly McGonigal's book, The Upside Of Stress: Why Stress Is Good For You And How To Get Good At It and her TED talk, which has been viewed over eight million times.
In the 14-minute talk, she cites a study conducted in the US, whereby a group of 30,000 adults were asked how much stress they had in their lives and whether they believed stress was harmful. Over the course of eight years, it was found that those who had a high level of stress had high risk of dying BUT that was only true if they thought stress was harmful.
Those who had a high level of stress, but crucially did not view it as negative, had no higher risk of dying and in fact had the lowest level of risk in the whole group, even lower than those with a relatively low level of stress.
In other words, it's not stress, but how you think about it that will kill you.
Here's another one. Research by Harvard University found that respondents taught to see their stress response as helpful - the pounding heart rushing oxygen around the body to prepare it for a challenge - didn't experience the narrowing of blood vessels that often causes stress to be associated with cardio-vascular disease.
McGonigal's third piece of evidence is the role of the neuro-hormone oxytocin in times of stress. Well known as 'the cuddle hormone', oxytocin, just like adrenalin, is released under stress, acting as a natural anti-inflammatory. It helps blood vessels stay relaxed and boosts heart-cell regeneration. It also motivates us to reach out to other people.
"I find this to be amazing, that the stress response has a built-in mechanism for stress resilience and that mechanism is human connection," says McGonigal. "Science," she insists, "has given me a whole new appreciation for stress."
It's a compelling message but not one everyone is completely on board with it. Dr Samantha Dockray is a lecturer in the School of Applied Psychology at University College Cork and has a special interest in health and wellbeing during times of stress. She says a major problem with changing the way we think about stress is that not everyone is adept at it.
"It's not that simple," she explains. "Changing how we think about stress relies on the person having quite a set of character traits and skills. But often people who have the highest level of poor outcomes - such as health problems - as a result of stress are those who have the lowest level of existing psychological resources and are the least able to turn their thinking around.
"It's a similar challenge that we face in positive psychology - those who are able to develop positive approaches and turn their thinking on stress are intrinsically different to people who can't."
Moreover, not all of us are as able, as they appear to have been in the eight-year study, at identifying levels of stress.
Dr Dockray continues: "Not everyone recognises when they're stressed. There's compelling evidence that job stress can constitute sufficient stress for heart attacks, diabetes and premature cognitive decline - but the source of their stress is so much a part of their life that they don't realise."
The problem is that stress is a permanent fixture in many people's lives today. The 'living on adrenalin/ trying to be all things to all people' scenario is so common in females that it's been dubbed Rushing Woman's Syndrome by nutritional biochemist Dr Libby Weaver, who says women are putting such pressure on their nervous system that its affecting their health, from PMS to IBS and mental wellbeing.
Andy Gibson author of the new book A Mind for Business believes it's actually pressure, not stress, that we need to make friends with.
"It's important to recognise the distinction between stress and pressure," he says. "Whenever we face pressure, we ask ourselves whether we can find the resources to handle it. If we do, it feels like a challenge; if we don't, we get stressed. A little bit of stress is not good for you. Pressure is motivating but stress is the sign the pressure has got too much."